Sumer is a goin oot..

Greetings from the tail end of sumer summer. As is usual this time of year (for the past three years) I decided to go down to the pool that I haven't been to all summer long because I'm too lazy. If it weren't for Goal 63 I'd never go at all, I guess.

I know I know I know all three years I've worn the same black bathing suit, so I thought I'd show a picture of the pool pass to prove it was really this year and not last year's pictures dragged out again...Because I know how skeptical and distrustful people can be.

And by the way, I fit into the bathing suit a LOT better now, though I'm not mercifully as skinny as I look in the floating picture. That image is totally an illusion, a product of some light refraction thing I managed to resist learning about in high school physics.



I kick myself every time for not remembering how nice it is in the pool. And how stupid is it that on yet another day this summer when we have record heat, I'm sitting in my office FREEZING. I'm wrapped up in a fleece shawl drinking green tea.

Musicophilia

Musicophilia: Tales of Music and the Brain
Oliver Sacks

Interesting Fact that I Didn't Know until I Read the Wikipedia Entry Just Now: Sacks's middle name is Wolf. Also a lot of scientists don't like him. To some, he is a better writer than scientist, one critic remarking on Sacks's "idiosyncratic and anecdotal approach."

Another interesting fact: you can't download an image of the book cover that won't have that "Look inside" link attached to it.

Oliver Sacks, as you probably know, is the real-life hero of the movie Awakenings (starring Robin Williams and Robert De Niro), based on his book of the same name, about a neurologist who treats people suffering from a 1920s sleeping sickness. His actual work in that field has been criticized for not being scientifically thorough, the studies not double-blind, and what-have-you. Still and all, Awakenings is a pretty bloody terrific story, and there are some awfully good stories in Musicophilia as well.

There’s an amazing tale of a musician who almost completely loses his memory. Not just past memories, but any memory at all, say of what was at the beginning of a sentence just uttered. Can you imagine how debilitating?! For some reason, he was able always to recognize his wife when she visited him and was overjoyed to see her, and was also able to play and conduct music.

If you’re very into music, especially classical, you will find most of this book riveting. I did not realize, for instance, that the way one’s brain processes music is broken down into different aspects of it. Sacks and other scientists know this through people whose brains have been damaged. One person might lose the ability to distinguish pitch, another any sense of rhythm.

Another fascinating thing is how music can help heal people with brain injuries. In particular, Sacks’s final chapter on Alzheimer’s patients is profoundly moving. His assertion that even advanced Alzheimer’s patients still possess their souls—and that it becomes evident when you play music to them—really resonated with me. (My mother-in-law is an Alzheimer’s patient.)

It’s always annoying to me reading books with copious footnotes, and this book was no exception. Anybody else have this issue? I try to ignore the footnote numbers in the body of the text, but as a compulsive reader, I can’t just turn the page and continue the flow of a narrative and leave footnotes on the page unread. I prefer endnotes—then if I really want to have something elaborated on, I can turn to the back and read it. But that’s annoying too…

Now I’m reading a book with no footnotes—David Sedaris’s When You Are Engulfed In Flames. I just started it this morning on the subway, and Sedaris is proving to be awfully good company.

Horace Leighton Kelley 1922-2010

My father died early in the morning on April 29th. We had very little warning.

He had a rich, full life and was loved by so many people. It is a constant ache in my life now that he is gone.

I took this picture the morning of his funeral in Kentucky. I was sitting in my mother's bedroom being all distraught, and she said "I'm going to go cut you a rose; I think you need one." So she did--one of the really fragrant floribunda roses that grows at the corner of the porch. (I'm not sure whether she thought I needed cheering up or that my outfit was way too somber. I was the only one in all black, but then I wear all black an awful lot. I work in NYC after all.) I pinned it at the collar and wore it all day. I still have the dried petals and they still smell.

I was still pretty distraught when I decided I'd take this picture of the rose and my father's photo. As you can see he was a really handsome man--movie-star handsome. And my mother looks pretty awesome, too. They were an incredible couple. I'm so glad, after my first fears for her, that she seems to be handling things pretty well.

Needless to say, this event threw me for a loop for a couple of months. But I'm recovering.

You just never have all the time you think you're going to have.

Sabbatical is over.

It's been a while. But I have been very busy and not neglecting my goals! Just so you know.

I've also been very, very busy being a grandmother. So here is a nice picture of Baby Jack and his lovely mother. More posts on the way...I have a lot of catching up to do.

Poem of the Month - "Anyway"

This is known in some sources as Mother Teresa's Anyway Poem, because she apparently had it posted in her room. I don't myself actually consider it a poem; it's just a fairly plain-spoken philosophy that has some symmetry to it. Our priest quoted it in his Easter sermon this morning, and I liked it--enough to remember it and go google it when I finally got home. In a sense, it's about being stubborn, which I kind of am, so that must be what appeals to me about it.

Happy Easter.

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you've got anyway.

UPDATES UPDATES UPDATES

Okay, I know I know I know I've been a really terrible blogger lately, but 1) my day job has suddenly gotten extremely busy!!!!! which is where I was largely composing my posts during slack time and now there is no slack time, and 2) I am now a devoted grandmother which can be very time consuming. When I'm not actually babysitting or visiting, I have to spend a lot of time on the computer obsessively poring over the voluminous photograph archives and watching videos over and over again.

But I will try to make it up to you: here is a beautiful photo of Baby Jack:



And just to show you that he can look as silly as any other regular baby who is not The Most High Regal Baby Jack, here is my latest iPhone grab from my last babysit:



And....The Second Fatbet is over! I lost. BUT I also lost 8.2 pounds!!!!! YAY!!!!! That's what's so neeeet about Fatbets; it's a lose/lose situation. Even if you know you probably won't win the bet, you're motivated to get as much as you can for your money. Or in this case, lose as much as you can. If my math is right, and it always is, I spent $12.20 per pound lost. Wouldn't you?

So I am now--*drumroll*--only 1.8 pounds away from my Goal 45-Weigh ≤130!

The Fatbet Ladies are going to meet in Midtown for dinner on April 21st. I decided I would extend my bet 'til then: I told them if I had not reached ≤130 by then, I would buy all their entrees. That ought to motivate me.

In other news, my new wardrobe (per Goal 78 - Go clothes shopping with someone knowledgeable and come back with at least two good outfits) is growing by leaps and bounds, and I'm getting a reputation as a fashionista!!!! Somebody whose looks I revere (who is also young enough to be my daughter) asked me if I would pick out a new wardrobe for her!!! I had to, sadly, inform her that I have no taste whatsoever in clothes and that my wardrobe was the work of a professional. Note, though, that I didn't actually pay anybody, even though I was prepared to. I just went into Variazioni between rehearsals because they were having a winter coat sale and I needed a new coat, and there was this nice swanky looking saleslady who outfitted me for free because I had the bright idea of saying, "Show me something else that I should buy." From there on, it was all downhill. I also went in several days later and she had another go at my wallet. All very, very much worth it. Yes, I know, I don't have any pictures to prove it yet, but there will be some. The other day I bought a silver raincoat! :-)

AND--*drumroll*--I have almost achieved the impossible: to wit, Goal 31 - Get all papers filed! I did this by throwing some money at the situation and hiring an assistant. Believe me it has been worth it. She found some checks for $200 plus--actually she also found a $2000 plus check, but it turned out to be already dealt with. I'm telling you, being disorganized can really cost you money!!!

More on that later. We're still working.

I deserve all kinds of congratulations, so as Mizfit likes to say (who by the way has a must-read post today), please to hit us up in the comments!

(Psst...Fitbit, Inc. Rocks)

(Don't tell anybody, but they gave me a new Fitbit for free because I have been so nice to them.)

(NB: This is not their usual policy. And I was totally prepared to buy a new one--I ordered it, appending a pitiful message about how much I missed it and needed it right away, and they e-mailed me a nice note that they had cancelled the order and were sending me one post-haste in return for valuable information about how I lost it and how I used it so that they could improve their product.)

(I just had to tell somebody how wonderful they are. I did ask them if they preferred me not to mention the replacement publicly--not that this blog is all that public--and I did not hear back. The ONLY time they have not been responsive. But I just have to say, don't expect free replacements in the event of loss...though if you do buy one you can expect a great product and sterling customer service!)

And BTW, the Fatbet is going swimmingly. For everybody but me, that is...I seemed to be stalled out at about minus three pounds. Still have some time though...

I seem to be bogged down in ellipses today...

Upcoming: I knocked off Goal 78 (Go clothes shopping with someone knowledgeable and come back with at least two good outfits) and exceeded my goal to an amazing extent. More on this later. ScottieDog keeps trying to take pictures of my new outfits, but we are really not good fashion photographers. For one thing, he's so tall and all the pictures he takes are from above which make me look like I'm about four feet tall and as wide. We'll get that figured out sooner or later...

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